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'Hurry up!', 'Shhh!', 'Wait, did you hear something?', 'Let's do it in the garage' are all statements that my husband and I have used, more than once, when we've wanted to get our freak on. If you have kids, you know exactly what I'm talking about and you also know what a challenge it can be to sometimes simply have sex with your significant other. But there is ALWAYS a way to make it happen. This isn't a preachy little tale of 'All the ways you can have more sex even when you've got kids' (and I hate it when that type of unsolicited advice comes rolling off the tongues of 'those' individuals) so I'll simply skip to the nitty gritty and share MY experiences with you.
We have thee children (duh, we knew that!) so when it comes to, as my darling husband likes to put it, 'sexy time', we have to get creative (sometimes). It wasn't always this way but in the past 'almost' uh, nine years of our marriage, we've had to adjust to changes of all kinds. First it was the 'Do we do it with the baby sleeping in our bed?' Now this was probably the BIGGEST question of all the instances. Did we have sex with our infant sleeping in our bed? The answer is, YES! And? Yes, we did and it was perfectly fine. First because she was 1) asleep, 2) an oblivious infant (do they KNOW you're having sex? NO!), and 3) we have a King sized bed ;) This was our method with daughter number one. Of course sometimes we'd end up having our little intimate moments in the baby's nursery and that's exactly where we conceived daughter number two. Yes, she was conceived on a plush, round pink and cream colored with elephants all around it Pottery Barn Kids rug. Oh please! I'm sure that there are other 'weirder' places that you've done it. Come on now! At least we can tell her that her conception was 'elephantastic'!
So once baby number two came around, and I was nursing an infant and a twenty month old toddler and co-sleeping with BOTH of them, my husband and I took our 'sexy time' to other parts of the house, i.e, the shower, the living room, the kids room, the floor in our bedroom, well, you get the picture. We took advantage of any given space in our home. It's just what these parents did to have some alone time!
Then we decided that it was time to shoot for baby number three after number two turned two. While our first two daughters slept soundly and cozily in our King sized bed, hubby and I schlepped our baby making selves over to the living room and under a brilliantly bright full moon peering through the large picture window and us on a lime green modern styled couch, our baby number three was conceived. Once number three was born, our first two were sleeping in their own room so we were back to square one and yes, we did have sex with our infant in our bed and again, it was perfectly fine. She was never smothered, or bumped, or awoken, or scared, or EVER noticed a thing.
We adjusted our intimate time according to our children's ages and have done the very best we could under each circumstance. Now that our third daughter is three years old, we don't do and won't do anything with her in our bed because I know that it would not be a pleasant sight for her and it's just inappropriate at this impressionable age. If she happens to be in our bed sleeping then we either put her back in her own little bed or we leave and go do our thing somewhere else.
They each sleep in one room together in their respective beds and my husband and I finally have our King sized bed to ourselves, well, at least until 3am because that's when number three comes stumbling in half awake with her curls bouncing all over the place and nuzzles her way onto my side of the bed. I'm always happy to hear her little feet clapping on the tile during this time. I welcome her every time and hold her close to me because I know that one day I'll be wishing to have one more moment like this. In the meantime, hubby and I have zero qualms having to raise the TV volume to 50 in the event we have the worry about saying, 'shhh....don't wake the kids!' because for some reason, they never wake up to a loud TV. Just our luck!
'What a happy and holy fashion it is that those who love one another should rest on the same pillow'-Nathaniel Hawthorne
3 comments:
I love this! So important that you brought this topic up, because it's easy to lose this aspect of a relationship once the kids come. At a certain point we did put a lock on our door (once all of the kids were in their own beds, in shared rooms), which at least meant they had to knock... I have had many babies in our marital bed (five), and, as you say, they don't know and don't care.
What I really want to say, as the now 50 year old mother of nine (his, mine, ours) is that the sex gets better! Just keep making time for whatever you can manage while the kids are little. Now that they are bigger, they would probably blush to know how rich our sex lives are.
Thank you Justine!
JAJAJAJAJAJAJA SI SABRE DE ESTO!!!!!! AL FINAL UNO APRENDE A DISFRUTAR DE ESOS CORTOS PERO ESPECTACULARES MOMENTOS HASTA QUE UN DIA SE DICEN ENTRE ELLOS,SHHHHH CREO QUE MAMA Y PAPA ESTAN SEXING NO LOS MOLESTES !!!!!!!!!!
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